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Pregnancy or child loss around Christmas time Rss

Christmas is supposed to be a happy time, but unfortunately for some people who have suffered from a miscarriage or lost a child it can be a really difficult time.

Melissa Zaini, a parent support at Sands – an organisation dedicated to miscarriage, stillbirth and infant death support – says that the first Christmas after losing your baby is the hardest.

“[It] is the hardest because it is raw and unknown. Although the pain is still there, over time, it does get easier.”

Melissa’s son, Harry Joseph, was born face presentation and sadly sustained a brain stem haemorrhage. She struggled through the first Christmas after Harry’s death for the sake of her two older children. It wasn’t easy.

Melissa has the following advice for other parents facing Christmas while mourning the loss of a baby.

How to cope at Christmas after infant or pregnancy loss

Do whatever feels right for – there’s no right or wrong

“You might find that you are not sure what you want to do until the last minute. Don’t feel like you have to have a plan. You can tell your friends and family that you will decide whether or not to join them on the day.”

Keep it low key and be honest about your feelings

“My two other boys love the festive season. The first Christmas after Harry died was extremely difficult, however I felt I still needed to go through the motions of Christmas for them, but I kept it low key. I was tearful and had a meltdown. I told my children I missed their baby brother and they were good about it. We continued with the day.”

Talk openly to your partner and family

“Discuss how you are feeling and what you may all want to do. It’s a great way to help you prepare each other and can make the holiday period a comforting and peaceful time.”

Find a way to honour your baby

“Doing something to honour your baby during the festive season, like giving a donation, lighting a candle or planting a tree can bring much needed comfort and can become a great family tradition. Each year, we donate a Christmas gift to charity in Harry’s honour. We always buy him a present and leave it under the Christmas tree and open it at his resting place. We also make sure that we write Harry’s name on Christmas cards too.”

We also encourage you to use this thread to support each other during this time and beyond. Tell us your story, remember your lost child and get support here on Huggies.
I am so sorry to read about this. I am among you girls. I had miscarriagesdtwice. I was diagnosed with PCOS. I didn't knew how to cope with this feeling. It is still so green and fresh that I don't know what to do. I had done everything I can to forget it but still I remember it. I was informed I can not conceive. Though I have 3 beautiful babies because I had undergone fertility treatment in "BioTexCom" yet I couldn't forget about those 2 babies I lost and loved so much. I hope they forgive me for this. All this pain I caused them. I juts wish they forgive me. Clair
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