i am a 24 year old with 1 child and with 1 on the way. my son refuses to shower just because i don't shower. i try and tell him its ok to do something that i dont but he keeps telling me he will when i will but im just not ready to yet.
Answer: Hello, You don't say how old your son is, but I'm guessing he's a toddler? Some arguments are best avoided altogether and it's easier to look for the path of least resistance. Especially when you're pregnant and there's a limit to reserves of energy and patience. Is it easier if you give him a bath at least for a few weeks until he forgets that it's an option? Or perhaps shower with him or let him see you having a shower so he's getting the benefit of role modelling? Just be mindful that toddlers are very good at maximising attention and if they protest they learn they get more attention than if they're passive. Try to be very aware of when he's being compliant and doing as you ask and then praise him to the max. Describe the behaviour you want to see more of and tell him what a good boy he is. And try also to ignore what doesn't really matter. He'll soon move onto another exciting thing. The other option is to ask your partner to shower him. Sometimes the novelty of having another parent do the more routine and "boring" things can make a real difference. And playing games and making fun of showering is another option. Make sure there's some toys in there for him to muck around with. Best Jane
Answered: 23 Aug 2015